Jehovah was not in the wind. And after the wind, an earthquake: Jehovah was not in the earthquake.
And after the earthquake, a fire: Jehovah was not in the fire. And after the fire, a soft gentle voice. (1Kings 19:11-12)

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Monday, February 25, 2013

True Beauty ~ Does it Actually Exist?

I'm sitting in the La-Z-Boy rocking chair, the one by the window overlooking the backyard. It's where I come to read, to snuggle, to think, to take a break with a warm cup in my hand, to talk on the phone.

My sister is pleading with me and I'm not really rocking, I'm leaning forward, my elbows on my knees with the phone at my ear. She is begging me to start looking at myself differently. She tells me I must. As though my life depends on it.

That when I look in the mirror I need to see that I am beautiful. I just don't see it. 



When you are half-way through your thirties and all of your womanhood life you have seen yourself as less-than, how on earth are you just supposed to start seeing yourself in a different light?

I don't see beauty when my own reflection is staring back at me. 

When I say that outloud, see it in black and white, I see how dreadfully wrong I am. But, how do you correct a mistake that you have made so often it is ingrained; a habit; a tangled web; a lie that destroys?

In this world so caught up in size and proportion and perfectionairbrushing and glamour and flawlessness what do you do when you simply don't measure up, when you may or may not be a size 2 and your measurements are way out of proportion and your glitter is not all that glamourous and all you see are your flaws and lack of perfection?

I am not naive enough to think this is only my problem. 

For some reason we are reaching for an ideal that doesn't even exist as though we could actually gather gold at the end of the rainbow. But we always come up empty handed.


"Christina Kelly, who has been the successful editor of Elle Girl, YMJane, and Sassy, wrote a confessional article about the process of the female magazine industry:
Why do we crave celebrities?  Here’s my theory.  To be human is to feel inconsequential.  So we worship celebrities and seek to look like them.  All the great things they have done we identify with in order to escape our own inconsequential lives.  But it’s so dumb.  With this stream of perfectly airbrushed, implanted, liposuctioned stars, you would have to be an absolute powerhouse of self-esteem already not to feel totally inferior before them.  So we worship them because we feel inconsequential, but doing it makes us feel even worse.  We make them stars, but then their fame makes us feel insignificant.  I am part of this whole process as an editor.  No wonder I feel soiled at the end of the day." ('King's Cross', Timothy Keller)
Unless we come to terms with who we truly are and how we have been created and chosen we will struggle with true beauty.

True beauty comes from within; from a heart that is humbled and at peace; a spirit that is at rest with its Creator; a soul that has been restored. 

No amount of make-up can effectively remove a miserable scowl,  no adorning of costly apparel will cause us to be anymore precious, and no amount of airbrushing can make a heart at peace.

But I can look into a mirror and say I'm beautiful because I have been created in the image of One who is 'altogether lovely' and although that likeness has been distorted because of sin, it is being restored by grace and I am being made ~ being re-created ~ to be 'more and more like him as we are changed into his glorious image' and he has 'clothed me with the garments of salvation; he has covered me with the robe of righteousness,'

Oh, I see my flaws and it is hard to see the beauty, but I will not let the world define beauty for me any longer. I will accept myself for what and whose I am  ~ masterpiece of God.





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Linking up here at Emily's, Jen's and Jennifer's

17 comments:

  1. LOVE this. :-) oh, that we could all grasp this in some measure and portion. clinging to the vision of what HE sees in us. each and every day.
    "a spirit that is at rest with its Creator."
    yes, that is the take-away for me today. thank you for sharing!
    Steph

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    1. Yes, clinging to Him! Thank you, Steph for coming by!

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  2. I love the series Emily started and you wrote this beautifully. This is a battle we fight day after day after day...

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    1. It is a great challenge for us, isn't it? Thanks for joining in with me!

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  3. Yes, beautiful YOU! Maybe you would like to write for the new guest post series I'm doing at Finding Heaven? Here's the background (and email me at jenfergie2000@me.com if you are interested): http://www.findingheaventoday.com/2013/02/beheld-in-different-light-new-guest.html

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  4. WOW! Rebekah, I just finished writing the exact same thing in a blog I have just started.. The Lord is really trying to get it into my thick skull that I am beautiful and worthy, I am His princess and He created me in His own image.. You truly are BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT!!!! thanks for sharing, I have been enjoying reading your blogs.. you are a great writer!!

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    1. Melissa,
      I was so glad to read your words on your new blog! You are beautiful and He loves you and hold you near to His heart! Looking forward to seeing you!

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  5. oh girl. first of all, i truly do think you're beautiful. but yes, you are SO right... it's only when we come to terms with our creation, with our creator, and his loveliness, and the fact that we are made in HIS image, that we will start seeing through new eyes. love this. love YOU. xo

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    1. Emily, thank you for the dare to go here! Looking forward to what is in store!! You bless!!

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  6. This is wonderful. I'm writing an article this afternoon about this very topic, and this is just the inspiration that I need -- not only for the article, but to really live it out. I so appreciate you.

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    1. Jennifer, Amazing grace! That you could be encouraged by these words! Thank you for a place to tell His story for His glory!!

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  7. This is so wonderfully written! I needed to hear this today. Thanks Rebekah. I am posting tomorrow on a similar theme and will link to this post. well done!

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    1. Thank you Jean!! I look forward to reading your post!

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  8. very nicely written. i hope in this 'asignment' that emily has offered us that we all find a place of good self-worth. you're right. it shouldn't be based on the body we carry with us, but on the spirit that resides within.

    love to you.

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    1. All our beauty is a reflection of Him!! Thank you, Patty for the exhortation to be impacted by our own words. They can't just be words we have to live them!!

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    2. Dear Rebekah
      Oh, this is an illness that runs through the human race in many forms. Woman look to beautiful woman and feel insignificant. Moms look at the clever, talented children of others. Men looks at another's bank balance, another's car. And so it goes on and on. Oh, let us just look to our Lord Jesus. The one who owns everything and whose beauty we cannot even begin to comprehend. He loves us just as we are. Over via Jennifer's.
      Much love
      Mia

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